Stalked by the Ottas and the Gottas … or …

Is Your To-Do List Bigger Than Your Life?

I feel so stressed, overwhelmed  …  am just too busy …  too much to do … .  feeling panicky …  feel so guilty …  it’s too much … sometimes I just want to give up!      Sound familiar?   Do you stress in this way?

Most of us are stalked by Ottas and Gottas.  The ought-to’s, the shoulds, I really should ….  and also the got-to’s, the musts, I really must …   As a panda, I know what it is to be stalked by predators.  And let me tell you, compared to the Ottas and the Gottas, a lion is small potatoes. More


The Way to Become the Cynical Stresser

My friend Hal (no that’s not his real name) does not trust people.  This in spite of the fact that he is a stand-up kind of a guy … compassionate, honest and willing to help others.   Not surprisingly, because he always expects the worst from people, he’s often worried, tense and stressed.  Wouldn’t you be, too, if you were constantly waiting for a dagger in the back?

Hal once confided to me that he’s usually disappointed by others.  The large majority of those he thought were good people, usually wind up betraying him or letting him down.

It’s almost as though Hal has a camera with very sophisticated facial recognition software.  More

Grief and Loss: Grieving ‘cleanly’ into Peace.

Sandi and George were engaged to be married.  One evening George failed to show up for their usual dinner date and Sandi began getting a bad vibe.  She tried calling him but her messages went to voicemail. A short time later, her phone rang.   It was George’s brother.  He told her that the police had just contacted him.  George had been in a bad traffic accident and was at the hospital undergoing surgery.

 Sandi rushed over to the hospital immediately.  She waited anxiously for the George to be brought out of the ICU. The hours passed.   But he never was taken to the ICU.  George died on the operating table. 

 As you might imagine, Sandi was devastated.  They were so good for each other, looking forward to spending the rest of their lives together.  Then suddenly, it was over.  Just like that, all of her plans and hopes were gone.  There was a gaping hole now where once  George had been.


The grief and pain that come with the death of a loved one is a complicated thing.  So too, the stress that accompanies any kind of major loss:  a job, a relationship, a really good life situation. More

What’s it all about, Panda?

Once upon a time, there was a boy named Dick and a girl named Jane.  They lived their lives, settling.  Settling for “that’s just the way it is”.  They’d been taught to settle for lives filled with a low level of stress, depression, annoyance.  And as long as it didn’t get too bad, they  plodded along, doing what they needed to do to get by, chasing after entertainment, vacations, sex for their happiness. 

And, at times, they were able to find short intervals of contentment.  But then, Monday morning always came around again … the vacation would end … they would brace themselves to ‘get back to reality’.   After all,  “that’s just how things are.”  Life is simply a long chain of stress, struggle, annoyances – with a few bright spots here and there.

 Do you feel, at times, like Dick or Jane?  If so, could you be open to the possibility that it doesn’t have to be this way?   That we don’t have to settle for a lifetime of low level unhappiness?  In my experience, we can all live lives from a place of interest and fun. We can take action with a sense of confidence, competence.  We have the capacity to feel rightness and fulfillment in the midst of daily life.  And we can experience acceptance and love in the process.

I like to refer to this way of living as ‘Flow’.  Acting in Flow rather than in stress.  And the point of this blog is to give airtime to the possibility that we could all live life in this way.  To provide you with suggestions and tools for doing it so that you break free from just settling.

These methods are drawn mainly from The Sedona Method®,   the Shambhala  meditative tradition, and the Jin Shin Jyutsu system of energy work.  They’ve been chosen because I use them myself and they’ve helped me tremendously.  They’ve helped me to find a greater sense of Flow in my life, power over my life.  And I believe that they can help you too, if you’re willing to try them.  We all have great power to shape our lives.  As long as we are open to claim it.

 There are 2 “keys” …  two key ideas behind everything I post here.  Two key ideas needed to move from stress into Flow.   I suggest that  you check them out so that you’ll know where we’re coming from.  Check out the Two Keys link located over on the right.


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